Survivor or Victim?  0

Tammy Wolfe, Melissa's Sister

Are you a survivor or a victim? It really is our choice. We can choose to fall prey to circumstance or we can choose to rise above it.

Some wounds are deeper than any one of us could ever image. Loss and life in general can bring one to their knees. To be fair not all of us has the necessary “tools” to get out of the “victim” role because it is easier to sit back and let life eat us up at times, to compare our pain to others, to believe that “our” individual life is worse off than any other. In reality that is just giving in to our circumstance. It is destroying who we could really become and the love that would surround us if we chose to stand up rather than fall down. Pessimism sets in and one instantly becomes surrounded by negativity because that is all they can “see.”

My sister Tammy was 10 when she was diagnosed with Bone Cancer. A 10 year old who loved to play outdoors, an avid softball player, musically gifted and a natural “jokester.” From the moment she was given the news by my parents she became a survivor. A very wise young girl she would take on her chemotherapy and radiation with “gusto.” Giving up was not an option for her. For 5 long years she battled this disease! She battled still laughing, still loving and still surviving!

In a moment she could have just said “I do not want to do this, poor me! Why me? Why now? But she never did; not even once! She chose to face up to this disease. My older sister lost her battle with cancer at just 141/2 years old on March 29, 1980. She lost her battle as a survivor not a victim.

That sister of mine taught my whole family that life is a choice and that falling prey as a “victim” was not an option.

Believe! A survivor resides deep inside each one of us. When the survivor in all of us presents itself the victim fades away, ones vision becomes clearer and life’s “hiccups” become manageable.

When we choose to survive our circumstance love flows to us and through us. Light and love come our way in all forms. When you hear that “whisper” you can do it, you can beat this, you can survive, that is you believing in yourself! Don’t look out…look within! You are a survivor!

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