Archives for : May 2011

Can Love Be Greater Than Loss  0

By Melissa Wandall

I have and still hold in my heart what some may not be fortunate enough to experience in there life time. I have love. My husband loved me and I loved him like there was no tomorrow. We took each day and embraced our life. We took the bumps, battles and bruises of life but we took them together. We were M&M, fortunate to find one another’s hearts and to share our dreams, fears and future endeavors.
Life energized us to experience, savor and tackle whatever may come our way. Our hearts truly became as one.
We believed in venturing out on our own to spend time with our friends but our hearts always remained connected. Whether he was across the room or across the ocean I could always feel his heart and know that even though we were individuals our hearts would always beat as one!

The night that a piece of my existence went out to dinner without me (at my insistence) is the night that I will never forget.
It is the night that our love would be redefined. The love of my life was taken instantly by a careless driver, physically gone from this life.
It was now up to me to take the bumps, battles and bruises alone. The one that I needed the most to get me through this was now gone.
My heart felt like it had been shattered and would never be whole again.

I had to immediately “pull up my boot straps” and hold on to this great love not the great loss. I was not going to let this “tragedy” destroy the love shared by Mark and me. I was blessed and I was loved. It was supposed to be for a life-time but how do we define what a “life-time” is?
One week prior to Marks Crash was our one year anniversary. I remember standing in our bathroom mirror getting ready to go to our baby shower. Mark said “Luv I want to give you your anniversary gift.” From the mirror I watched as he placed a heart necklace on my neck. It was beautiful and I cried. He said, “My heart will always be with you, never forget that.” (He also wrote those words in my anniversary card.)

The moment I found out that Marks physical life ended I touched that heart on my neck and I heard him say “My heart is always with you , never forget that.” I felt the connection from miles away.

We can choose to end the connection or we can choose to keep it going. Love never dies, it never breaks promises and it is always hopeful.
I wear this necklace every day. It brings me peace and it gently reminds me of the great gift in Mark that I was privy to experience in my lifetime.
Our love is greater than our loss. His heart, love and life will grow with me always. Our love has brought philanthropy, advocacy and awareness on so many levels because I chose to concentrate on love and not loss.
Life and love go “hand in hand.” My hope is that if you are seeking today know that healing takes place when love becomes greater than the loss.

LIFE WILL ALWAYS HAPPEN AND WILL ALWAYS BE IN MOTION  0

Life will always happen and will always be in motion; this we can always be sure of.We can not CONTROL people; what they believe in, the choices they make or how they “handle” situations. But what we can CONTROL is how we react. When ego takes over, they take their agendas (not ours) and run with it. Place themselves’ politically to be in a position where they can force other “members” to vote there way.

Have they forgotten why they are elected by US in the first place? Of course they have. They feel powerful, dominant and their egotistical ways are present. I really feel sorry for them because their need for approval, to be “noticed,” to be feared is greater than doing the right thing for the people; for our families’ health, wealth and safety.

The Mark Wandall Traffic Safety Act was a horrific example of this. The House of Representatives voted Monday May 2, 2011 to repeal this bill. This act gives our communities the approval to install Red Light Safety Cameras at intersections where our multi-tasking motorists are running red lights and risking our health, wealth and safety! The vote was 59 for the law and 57 against this law. “Leadership” wants these cameras down!!!! We have a right to be safe on our highways! Why is leadership trying to take our rights away?

Remember, we can not control people, what they believe in or the choices that they make even if we voted them in to “SERVE US,” the people. What we can CONTROL is how we react to it.

A quote from Dr. Bernie S. Siegel; “Unlike the atom being altered by a scientist we have a choice what to add to our personal universe. Choose Wisely.”
We need to know who we are voting in to these positions. We have the power; not them. We the people can protect the vitality of our state and our families’ health, wealth and safety!

*With all that being said lets thank the half who are making the right choices for our state! Let them know that we appreciate their time, talent and service. That we are grateful of their representation of our families health, wealth and safety.

If you have a moment, please call or email the following Representatives and just say Thank you!
vote our legislatures in to represent us; the people. To protect, serve and care for our families’ health, wealth and safety. That is why they are called representatives. Once they go to the Capitol half of them forget why they were elected by us in the first place. This “half” feels that they now have the power to do what is best for “me, myself and I!”

All of the Representatives who VOTED NO to repeal the Mark Wandall Traffic Safety Act:
EMAIL THESE REPRESENTATIVES NOW!

Aubuchon
Berman
Boyd
Campbell
Chestnut
Clarke-Reed
Clemens
Cruz
Ford
Fresen
Frishe
Gibbons
Glorioso
Gonzalez
Goodson
Harrison
Holder
Hooper
Hudson
Jenne
Jones
Julien
Kiar
Kriseman
Moraitis
Nelson
Passidomo
Perman
Pilon
Porth
Proctor
Randolph
Reed
Rehwinkel
Renuart
Roberson, K.
Rogers
Rouson
Sands
Saunders
Schwartz
Slosberg
Soto
Stafford
Steinberg
Steube
Taylor
Thompson, G.
Thurston
Van Zant
Vasilinda
Waldman
Watson
Williams, A.
Williams, T.
Wood